I'm such a hypocrite...
I chose to delete a blog I posted this morning. I was bored, and I decided to post a blog that was encouraged by another persons blog. Not to go into great detail, but after letting it sit all day, *laughing*, I realised that I did exactly what I complain about other people doing.
I got involved in a complete strangers business...I put my nose where it really doesn't belong, regardless of weather her blog is public or private. I put my two cents in, because I'm a very opinionated person, and probably didn't make any difference after doing so. I don't like when people feel the need to fight with me because I don't agree with how they feel about a topic...yet, I did that just today. How immature of me to do such a thing, and yes, I admit that I shouldn't have. Unfortunately you cant go back in time and have a do over moment...so life goes on, but I wanted to own up to my mistake.
If my family read how I felt about my baby shower, they would have gotten the wrong impression of how truly grateful I was and am for what they have done for us...I would be absolutely mortified. I don't want anyone to think that I am a selfish or spoiled brat...that's not the type of person I am.
We bought a lot of the necessities for our daughter...her high chair, car seat, and stroller as soon as we found out we were pregnant...we purchased those items because they are some of the pricey necessities, and we didn't expect our friends and family to spend that kind of money on gifts. After our baby showers, we saw how many clothes we got...and felt unprepared...disappointment was the wrong word to use before.
Registries are meant to help friends and family out with gift ideas. Its there to tell people what you need...so its understandable when pregnant women get frustrated because no one bought from their registry...when all you get is clothes. Its especially hard for first time mommies because you don't know what you are actually going to need, so when you don't get things you need from experienced moms, you feel like you don't have to proper tools to care for you child as soon as they are born.
Now, with all that being said, I saw a comment someone wrote that said people shouldn't have kids if they cant afford it or don't know what they are doing...to you, I must say, no one knows how to be a parent until they experience it first hand. And money always seems like an issue, but you make sacrifices and make it work out. A friend of mine said her husband had to pick up a second job to pay for some of the things they needed...she wasn't complaining about the fact that no one got these items for her, she was stating how they, like Matt and I, were saving up to buy a house and their savings was tapped out after they purchased the things they didn't get from their shower, and because he had to work more hours, they didn't get to spend as much time as any happy couple would like to spend with eachother...again...you make sacrifices. So bashing someone and saying they shouldn't have a baby if they cant afford it...in my opinion was out of line. There are worse things a parent can do or say to make them unfit to have a child...and I see those people all the time...pick your battles...and Ill pick mine.
